Saturday, November 30, 2013

western versus eastern




This morning I woke up early to do my daily "meditation" of sweeping and washing the floor in the rooms of the house I am living in. I had noticed a friend sent me an email, and read it before I began my day. She was sharing about the difficulty and actually retiring and the desire to do so, along with the fear of whether she will have enough money to live the rest of her life without working anymore. She wanted my opinion. I felt like the last person in the world that could answer that question in a way that would be relevant to her life. Here I was, sweeping the floor of the porch, and my main concern in life was whether the baby gecko that hides in the corner during the night and rushes off quickly when I move the bag of dried flower petals that I keep in the corner where he has suddenly made his home, will still be there this morning, so I can show the little 7 year old girl that is my gecko loving partner each evening as we watch them on the ceiling. That really is my biggest concern today. It is a wonderful feeling not to  think about work, money, the future….and just live a simple life. I guess I have been blessed with a total lack of interest in anything having to do with old age and cost of living and really feel that my life could end at any moment…what do I know? So why even deal with it beyond a small savings that I have? I just kind of trust that no matter how much I have or whatever situation I find myself in, there will be a way to manage, otherwise I wouldn't have been placed in that situation!
And as those thoughts went through my mind I ever so carefully moved the plastic bag of dried flowers so if the baby gecko was still there I could get a good look at him and maybe even have a chance to call the little girl to see him close-up. Yep, there he was, and he wasn't even moving…great…maybe asleep? But as I nudged him with the broom bristles I realized he was dead. Just born a few days ago and dead already. I was so sad and disappointed. Why?
I went to the little girl who was laying in bed watching television. How can I tell her this in Indonesian? Hmm…I remembered once when someone died, one of my Balinese friends did a pantomime of "sleeping" as she explained that the person died. I could do that….okay. but as I stood next to the television to catch her attention I found myself pantomiming sleeping, followed by a "thumbs down" gesture when she asked me if the gecko is asleep. And then another movement like an umpire at a baseball game saying the player is "out"! all accompanied with my sad facial expression and nodding head negatively. She looked at me for a split second and with both of her hands made a beautiful flowing feminine gesture of a soul rising up to the heavens, smiled, nodded her head in recognition and continued watching television.
I was so surprised by the naturalness of her response. The fact that we had both oogled over the new born baby gecko the evening before did not mean that now we had to be all sad and confused about his death. It was simply his time to go to heaven….all is as it is meant to be.

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